Do You Manage People or Are You “Just In Charge?”

You know the ones:  the managers who ignore the fact that human beings don’t  (actually can’t) “leave their feelings at the door” when they come to work.  These managers ignore conflict and avoid confrontation … especially when there’s a “pot-stirrer” in the office and everyone is just wishing the boss would step up and deal with him or her, but they just ignore the issue.

This boss will suffer the consequences … a slow, painful erosion of the trust he has been given by his employees, all because he is unaware of the forces of emotions at work … the contagion of anxiety, worry, frustration, stress  and more, that will eventually erode the trust of the most loyal employee.  And need I mention the negative impact on the quality of their work … the customer or client suffers in the end.

According to Mayer and Salovey, emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional knowledge, and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth (Mayer & Salovey, 1997).

Dr. David R. Caruso (1999) describes how emotional intelligence can be broken into four, related parts:

Identifying Emotions – the ability to correctly identify how people are feeling.

Using Emotions – the ability to create emotions and to integrate your feelings into the way you think.

Understanding Emotions – the ability to understand the causes of emotions.

Managing Emotions – the ability to figure out effective strategies that use

Managers who ignore emotions in the workplace are just “in charge.”  Managers who understand, appreciate, acknowledge and use emotions (their own and others’) actually engage in management.

The good news is … most of us are born with emotional intelligence (there’s actually part of the brain that can be seen on a fMRI scan when we are engaged in this fashion), and this strength and skill can be developed and grown with practice.

As a leadership coach, this is probably the most critical skill my clients desire to improve … and is critical to not only manage others, but most of all to lead others to accomplish great outcomes.

How are emotions handled in your organization?  Are their cultural “rules” (spoken or unspoken) when it comes to how emotions are handled (or not)?

About Christina Haxton

CEO & Founder of Sustainable Leadership, Inc. I assist professionals who desire to harness the power of self-awareness, authentic communication and powerful leadership skills to drive positive change from the inside out in order to become exceptional leaders who are built to last.
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